Saying Sorry is not that Difficult!!

It is said, "Love means never having to say you are sorry". However, this is not entirely true. At times, you need to say sorry after a fight, just to let your partner know that you realize your mistake. Saying sorry does not lower your self-respect. Infact, it helps in bridging the barrier created between the two of you because of a fight. You should never ever hesitate to sorry if you are at fault. However, most of the people do not how to say sorry after a fight. And, even though they are feeling apologetic, they fail to convey the same.

In the following lines, we have provided tips on saying sorry and making up after a fight…

• Say sorry only when you mean it. Saying sorry after a fight just to avoid further argument does not help. This is so because deep down you still feel that you were right and your partner was wrong. The issue does not get resolved and the next time even a smallest of mistake by your partner will snowball into a major issue and all the old matters will be raised again, leaving both of you frustrated.
• Do not take too much time in saying sorry. Saying sorry after a week will mean nothing. However, do take some time to think about your apology. It should not look as if you are saying sorry just for the heck of it.
• While saying sorry, do not bring up old issues or do not refer to the mistakes of your partner. You are here to accept your mistakes and not to criticize.
• Do not say sorry on the phone, through sms or via e-mail. It will hurt your partner even more. If you feel you have done something wrong, have the courage to say that you are sorry.
• After saying sorry, wait for the reaction of your partner. Give him/her an opportunity to vent his/her feelings, hurt as well as anger. Be patient and only after he/she is through, give your explanation.

How to Confess your Feelings and Love!!

What can I say about love, that hasn’t been said? Like most of us, I can’t explain what love is; I can’t describe love with words. I can just tell you that every time I am in love I feel like I’ve drank 10 espressos in a row!

There is a Greek proverb that says: “You can’t hide love or a cough.” It’s true! When you are in love, you can’t hide it! However, most of us are very well trained in hiding our feelings. Although “I love you” are the most beautiful words ever said (or heard), it’s those 3 words which we are most afraid to blurt out. Why? What are we so afraid of? Is it rejection? Are we afraid that the other person will laugh in our face?

I don’t think it has to be so hard to say “I love you.” Just think about it. What would you do if someone told you that they loved you? You’d probably smile, right? Why would the one you love should act otherwise?

When it comes to confessing our love, we all make excuses like “it’s too early” or “it’s too late” or “it’s not the right time…I’d better wait!” Well, if you want my opinion this “perfect time” may never come. Have you ever found out that the one you lusted over five years ago was also in love with you, but no one was brave enough to spit it out?

Speaking as a woman, we are usually afraid to flirt with a man, as we are afraid to confess our love before he does. Because when a man confesses his love, he seems romantic; but when we do, we seem desperate. Well, I have some news for you girls! You don’t look desperate if you tell your partner you love him. It doesn’t mean you want to marry him, nor that you want to have his children. It’s just healthy and pleasant to express your feelings. It’s kind of a relief. After all, love is a feeling meant to be shared.

The first step is to admit it to yourself that you are in love. Then, you just have to share it with them. Since you have to tell them one way or another, all you have to do is choose which way.

The old fashion way: Call, blurt it out, and hang up.

Alternately: Call, don’t talk and dedicate play their favorite song.

This seems kind of stupid, but romantic! You may look like a coward, and they won’t be 100% sure it’s you, but it’s enough to get their attention.

The romantic way: Give them a rose or a love letter, or draw something.

In other words, use your talents and make your statement as an artist. You can write something of your own, or copy a “I love you” quote or poem (you can find them after a brief search over the Web). You don’t have to give them yourself. You can leave them in their desk, their pocket or outside their house. You can also send them flowers (guys admit that they love being sent flowers) including a special dedication.

The heroic way: Throw it into their face

Better choose to tell them when they least expect to hear it, like when you are having dinner at a restaurant and they can’t overreact. However, you can tell them any time you want, when you are jogging together, when you are stuck in a traffic jam…just take a big breath and go for it!

The modern way: Send an e-mail gift card or text message.

This is less painful. You don’t have to look them in the eye while telling them. But you risk that they may not answer; at least not immediately. Maybe they won’t check their email, or may have forgotten their cell phone at home. In case they doesn’t answer you, can either assume that they don’t want to, or that you are a bit unlucky and their phone was stolen that day! If you can stand the entire waiting thing, you can try something like that.

The devious way: Make them tell you first.

You can simply ask them if they love you during a romantic night. They wouldn’t like to spoil the atmosphere – if you are not afraid to be a little more provocative, you can ask him between the sheets (the worst answer they can give you is yes). You can also ask in front of your friends during a conversation or during a table game. They’ll spit it out first, unless they want to make a fool out of themselves.

The childish way: Besides funny notes and little hand-made presents, you can write a “I love you” note and tie it to a rock. Then throw the rock into their room. You might break a window or two, but it’ll be worth it. They say the only difference between a man and a boy are their toys. So, if that is true, he’ll love it!

The extreme way: Print their photo, write “I love you” on it, and post it somewhere they’ll see it for sure! Which train do they take to go to work? Which building do they see every morning when they open their window? Does their house have an elevator? That’s a good choice!

I have tried them all and they all worked. Not because I used the right way for the right man, but because every “I love you” is never a total waste. I mean, sometimes all it needs is to just say it!

Why do people commit suicide???

Why do people commit suicide? People who are living in a "normal" mind are constantly asking this question. From time to time, we ask this question as well. After some careful analyzing, we have found a number of different reasons as to why someone may commit suicide. As we write this article, we would like to share some of those reasons with you, so pay close attention to what we are about to tell you.

For some, the pain that is caused by a loved one can be too much to bear. Often times, suicide comes from depression. You see, many individuals commit suicide because of depression. They feel as if life is too much they can handle and do not look past those negative life experiences. They feel as if they are not able to look past those life experiences.

Generally, the person who commits suicide does not receive any form of treatment and they often look at life as being pointless and dull. In the next couple of paragraphs, we are going to give you some more reasons as to why someone may commit suicide.

When a loved one dies, especially if the individual was very close to them, they may not be able to get over it and this can lead to depression. Believe it or not, some have committed suicide because they lost custody over their children. Losing a job, money or house is also some other reasons as to why someone would do this.

When the individual finds that they have a serious or terminal illness, they become so frightened of the path that is ahead of them that they go ahead and kill themselves. Domestic violence, assault and rape are some other reasons. A child being murdered, kidnapping and child molestation are some more reasons.

When someone commits suicide, they obviously have a loss of hope. If you have someone in your life that is constantly sad, then you need to speak with them and try you hardest to bring their spirits up. No matter what, no matter how much anger you have towards them, you should not yell at them as this will push them one step forward to death.

How to Kill Boredom????

Following are the seven tips by which u can kill your boredom and can have something to do:

Many senior citizens have a lot of time on their hand and do not know how to kill time. Loneliness and having nothing specific to do are main factors leading to boredom and perhaps depression. We must avoid being bored at any point of time, even for a few hours. It is self defeating attitude and 'entertaining' boredom may ultimately leave us highly frustrated. Here are some tips to ward off boredom.

1. Play some Word game or number games. Even newspapers offer Sudoku, Crossword puzzles, Scramble, jumble and the like. Have a go at it - whatever you are good at. No age is old for learning new things. I have known my friends swear that Sudoku keeps them occupied.

2. Go for a brisk walk. Do some mild exercise. Just stretch your self, feet and arms. Laugh aloud if you are alone. Learn about acupressure points in your body and massage them.
Any physical activity which gives a break for 20 to 30 minutes will also break boredom.

3. Dust your old tape recorder, CD Player, Radio or World Space unit. Start listening to any music you in which you are interested. When I took to Internet in early Nineties I thought that people Search the Net for Sex mostly. No, I was wrong. Music is most searched for, even today. As they say, music is the soul of life. Listen to some soul stirring music to forget yourself.

4. Pick up your pen and paper and write a letter to a friend whom you have forgotten. Or open your laptop and compose a few messages. They could even be 'official' complaints to civic authorities on local colony problems. Why wait for the Resident Welfare Association to take action? You will be twice blessed for such pro active social work.

5. Pick up a book that have read and would not mind donating it. Write your Name & address and leave a note that anyone that picks ac read and circulate the book again. Leave the book stealthily in a park bench and see furtively who picks it up. If this works for you, read more about "Book Crossing" and do this activity systematically.

6. Go to a nearby park. Seek out another lonely senior. A total stranger is better. Strike a friendship. Then listen to him without any interruption for at least thirty minutes. Once you know the myriad ways in which people keep them selves happy / unhappy, your loneliness will vanish.

7. Meditate. It is the incessant stream of thoughts that are meaningless that bore you. Cease to think. Just sit quietly observing your breath. Wait eagerly and watchfully for a thought to occur. Ignore it. Don't let your mind chain it with something else and extend the process of meaningless wandering. Try to be in thoughtless state for a few minutes. Boredom flies.

All the tips given above are simple and practicable. No money is involved. They will take care of your body mind and soul. Just try and see.

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Laura Epson